I started this post having something profound to say. Unfortunately, that thought lost me and I'm stuck in "no one gets me" purgatory.

Just too much going on and too much for me to handle with no one but the kittens to comfort me.

I know. Stupid. But I really don't spend a lot of time feeling like I belong.

Most of my time is spent NOT feeling like I belong.

And there you have it. That's my life story.

Alright. For those of you not following my FB page/friend status, I am single again. By again I mean I tried the long distance thing with an old friend a while ago and wasn't feeling it, and my ex left in August 2012.

So, naturally, being a web-savvy woman who knows what she wants (mostly), I decided to try Zoosk.

HORRIBLE FOR DATING. Be warned! Zoosk is full of weirdos and trolls and guys trying to exorcise their sexual demons. JS.

So I tried eHarmony and have met a couple of cool people. I won't talk bad about that site yet because people seem to be more serious on there as opposed to pimping themselves out.

Problem? This is the breeding ground for commitment-phobic guys. "Oh yea, cool, let's meet online!" Day three: "You're so awesome, omg!" Day four: "K." Day 5: "Sure." (Insert other one-word half-assed response here.)

I was only planning to spend about an hour on my websites this morning, but I wound up spending about three or four. At first, I was a little disappointed in myself. My websites are, afterall, not as important as my client work or my company's work, right?

Then I reconsidered. My websites are the gateway to me, my work, my company, and all of my projects. If these websites do not look polished, professional, and regularly updated, then where can I refer potential clients, customers, authors, and other professional connections?

People always talk about their heroes. I've seen this everywhere... TV, books, magazines, newspapers, high school assignments, college assignments, and wherever else.

What happens to those of us who have no heroes?

I mean, I have people I admire and respect for their work, but I have never in my life had a hero. Not after the point of being 7 or 8 and imitating Sheera.

Whenever anyone asked me who my hero was, I would always tell them that I am my own hero. Because I don't want to be somebody else. I want to be me, strong and beautiful and powerful, and that's what I want.

Granted I don't always feel strong and beautiful and powerful, but who cares? I'm sure "heroes" have their bad days, too.

The point is, why does everyone have to have a hero?

Why can't they just gather their own courage instead of borrowing it from someone else?

On the outside, I smile.
I socialize,
I laugh,
I have a good time...
And most of the time,
It works.

On the inside, I cry.
I worry,
I wonder,
I feel hopeless and afraid...
And most of the time,
It hurts.

On the outside, I sing.
I am strong,
I love,
I'm determined...
And most of the time,
It works.

On the inside, I mourn.
I contain,
I maintain,
I cage anger and fear...
And most of the time,
It hurts.

On the outside, I dance.
I'm alive,
I ignite,
I focus on the pieces
That haven't been broken.

And you know what?
Most of the time,
It works.

My brain and chest felt like this today.
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There are all kinds of reasons I could psycho-analyze myself with as far as why that pesky overwhelmed feeling takes hold and tries to anchor me to laziness in a day. Feeling overwhelmed sucks. Though I try to re-focus and regain my balance, it is so easy to let those feelings of stress and being overwhelmed grab hold of your thoughts again and pull you back down into their pit.

Fortunately for me, I've never been known to do things the easy way =). As a matter of fact, I tend to choose the most difficult, challenging, and sometimes stupid directions in my life, and I know it.

[Note: This is the first poem I've written in literally years, so pardon any imperfections. It stems from a place of inspired insight and first-hand observation.]

Personality like an anchor;
That soul will latch on to you
and drag you down into
the murky depths of
its own miserable existence.

Aura like a black hole;
Spreading sadness and
a moping lethargy
further and further into
its surroundings.

Attitude like a spoiled victim;
That soul will beg for help
and, when given,
nothing is ever good enough
and nothing is ever right.

Face like a succubus;
So pretty on the outside
but all it wants is to
bleed you dry
and disappear into the night.

Heart like a bitter old hag;
Where once there was goodness
there lies only bitter hatred
and high expectations for
the world to serve up happiness...

... when the only one who
could ever provide that
is the very same old, bitter hag.

Faced with the choice between romantic companionship or sanity, I will choose my own sanity every time. Kids will do that to you... you have a child and suddenly your emotional wants don't mean much anymore. There's a big difference between a want and a need, and a want is not nearly as important as the need to take care of and raise your family.

That's all well and good... but it's easier said than done, especially when you trust someone to tell you the truth and they start calling you crazy. You know in your mind that you're not, that it's just something hurtful they want to say instead of addressing the real issues... but then you end up questioning yourself. Even if the trust in that person has died, you still end up questioning your sanity, which can be a major distraction. This is why I'm writing it down.

Thinking can be dangerous, especially when you're fresh out of a break-up and start nostalgically remembering your life 10 years before (... ok, ok. 11 years).

When I was 17 (I still think of that as one of my favorite ages), I was close friends with a man named... we'll call him Joe. He wasn't too much to look at... kind of short compared to my 5' almost 10" and skinny. He did the best impression of Mr. Burns from The Simpsons: "Eggscellent...."

Over the years, he keeps creeping slowly into my thoughts, and I'm not sure exactly why. Some of my friends remember him, while others don't... it doesn't really matter. What mattered was that one single decision - one single choice - could've led me down a path 100% different from the one I walk now.

Relationships are hard.

For someone like me, relationships have never lasted... until him. He was someone I was happy with for two years - an eternity that felt like minutes (I've never been good at staying the same, so the longest "happy" relationship before him was only 4 months) - and am now so frustrated with that it's ridiculous. But frustration is stupid.... it's an angry emotion and won't breed anything but more anger and resentment. So I really need to think about this question:

What do I really want?